Children need comfort, but children are also realists. I find them able to take situations more realistically in the present condition. In my experience, allowing my children to feel always loved and have access to ask me open questions. I find this cultivates a deeper resilience into their lives.  I acknowledge that they are facing challenges and it is possible that these emotions might be uncomfortable. But this is the situation and instead of interfering with their narrative by contributing with my own biases, I say to them yes this is what is occurring – without my own story telling narrative.

So in my experience, not normalizing situation undermines the situation. But within a container of loving kindness helps us acknowledge the pain they may be feeling. I do also feel from the time we are young we can start growing this capacity of awareness – what we find less time to want to address as adults may be far more nurturing and beneficial from a younger age. To be patient with ourselves and be comfortable with the uncomfortable can be addressed with loving-kindness compassion. If you are curious about trying a loving-kindness meditation to help us cultivate this mindset please try this free recording:

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